my wife and i had business to attend to out of town today and i had thought if we made it back home in time, we'd go to the memorial.
as it turned out, we didn't get home in time and we missed it, but we had a real good talk with each other on the way home.
we are largely successful faders and at the very least, i like to try and make the memorial.
Hello Silent!
I expect your feelings are more intense at the moment as yest was memorial night. You've described a control group silent, the standards set are unachievable high so as time passes members assume they are the problem - leading to feelings of guilt, depression, etc. If you've not yet done so read Hassan's book 'combating cult mind control' - it will help your recovery. Best wishes to you!
https://www.jw.org/en/publications/
I can see what you're referring to. Conceningly the part in the 2016 program is entitled 'Shun unrepentant wrongdoers'. They have no shame.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oqlfpbfiuly
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oqlfpbfiuly
well it finally happened!
we have been waiting about a year for this, my dfd husbands family asked us for money.
even though his own father hasn't met our 8 month old son.
Its shocking how the cult conditions its members to use the same mind control it espouses. Using emotional blackmail such as- 'I don't like the type of person you're becoming'- is the type of shockingly rude statement no normal person would utter. But mind control runs through the DNA of this cult. I'm glad you've found the strength not to believe this debased attempt at psychological coercion!
the initial conversation had to do with someone who has the ability to reason for them self's.
i than asked her.....why is the memorial in march and not in april when nissan 14 is?.
her response..."pray to jehovah for understanding.
Can't imagine Jesus inviting guests to an event but insisting they do not 'partake'. If that man could see what has evolved from that event in the upper room within the dub cult he would surely laugh out loud.
Jesus would like you at his memorial but doesn't want you drinking the wine V friends have invited me for a few glasses of red at a local establishment. Hmm...
my first post here and unfortunately it is asking for help.. i was a born in jehovah's witness and from my earliest memories, i know i hated being one.
i hated the embarrassment of being the "outsider" at school and i hated not being allowed to have any friends.
of course i had the obligatory friends in the kingdom hall - none of whom were my age exactly and none of whom i would have personally chosen to be friends with if i had been left to pick them myself in a natural setting.
One of the reasons I left the JWs is that it became clear to me that their literature is full of mind control-guilt trips, emotional blackmail, group pressure, scare mongering. So while my parents did choose to make the decisions that marred my upbringing they were made under a duress that to this day they are unaware exists. They live in a pressurized, highly controlled environment that has become normalized to them. Hassan's book mentioned earlier is excellent since it makes no mention of WT, yet its description of how cult mind control works, reveals WT for what it is.
I have found talking to 1 or 2 friends about my past to be a great release. I have some exjw friends too and 1 in particular has massively benefited from professional counseling.
A warm welcome to the forum!
i read in a european ex jw forum that this year they are making a special effort to invite not only the inactive but also a special effort is made to invite all disfellowshipped.
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i don't know if this as always been a common practice, or something started anew so they can boast about the numbers of attendees..
just now finding this web site and have enjoyed reading the comments.
i've never written down my story and it could be a jerry springer episode but here goes.
i was raised as a jehovah's witness from as early as i can remember.
Welcome chip!!
Quite a twist at the end of the story!
And they all lived happily ever after... ...
Sorry to hear about your parents situation though but I'm glad you're living life your way.
this is the title of the latest episode of a podcast called "this is actually happening".
i love the podcast and imagine my surprise when this title came up.
imagine the surprise when i realized this was about jehovah's witnesses.
